People always want you to be the way you were in their memory. Regardless of whether that is a faulty memory, or just an idealized version of yourself. I have something to say to that:
Forget you.
Myspace & Facebook have given us an incredible opportunity to mix all of our friends. People who knew you in high school, your mother, my mothers-in-law, my teenage cousin, people who knew me in my drinking days, bad girl moments, church going-choir singing times, all on the same page, reading my same updates.
You would be amazed at the folks who expect you to think like you did the last time they saw you. Yikes! How horrible would that be? To never mature, to never make a change of anykind. Some accused me of turning my back on them to live a new lifestyle. I was forgetting who I was.
Nope. I am remembering who I am NOW. The daughter I am raising NOW. The incredible man I am married to NOW. I have made some bad choices, some amazing choices, some abysmal choices. I have a hard time regretting any of it, because I am living such an amazing life now.
People change. Don't let someone else's conception of who you used to be color who you are now. Don't be offended that they have those misconceptions. I have run into people I haven't seen in 20 years who have a better handle on who I am now than people I talked to just last week. Take the comments with some class. Make a joke of it.
When people were astonished I had a child & was married now. I made a joke of it. I tell them I had to stop the bar scene because Short Round kept getting kicked out for being an angry drunk. People sometimes have a hard time processing changes. They only have what they remember to go by.
You decide who you are. Your actions show the world how you have changed. Let them catch up in their own time.
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